Want to feel more calm? Here are seven ways, in the mid-July issue of ‘Tell Your Story Newsletter’ (TYSN)

July 2025 Vol 7 Issue 7

 

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Teaching English as a Second Language (ESL) to Economic Immigrants
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Welcome Mid-July 2025!

“ ‘Summertime, and the livin’ is easy,’ ” Dubose Heyward wrote in a novel that
became the libretto of George and Ira Gershwin’s opera, “Porgy and Bess.”
But these days, many entrepreneurs and professionals find summertime
anything but “easy.”

True, the weather is warmer (sometimes requiring air conditioning . . . ). But
bills still need to get paid, deadlines met, and both of those may compete with
any “holiday” plans we try to make.

With that awareness, in the “Main Article” this month addresses
entrepreneurial/professional wellness: I visit suggestions from the blog of
former Google marketing executive, Jade Bonacolta, on how to achieve
greater calm in your working life (and beyond).

Whether you’re an entrepreneur or you hold an 8:30 am to 4:30 pm “day job,”
chances are good that “calm” isn’t a default position for you. And what
about after hours? Bonacolta’s ideas address and bridge both in helpful ways.

And in “Shop News,” I thank various folk in my entrepreneurial network
who have helped me to see beyond apparent limits on my vocational horizon,
to achieve both sociability and productivity, rigour and calm.

So, while the ” ‘livin’ ” during our beloved summertime months may not
actually be “easy” (as Heyward wrote), it can become easier if we develop
habits or strategies that increase our self-care.

I wish you time, good readers, to refresh your body, mind and spirit this
summertime.

Sincerely,
Elizabeth Shih

Principal
Storytelling Communications
www.elizabethshih.com

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IN THIS ISSUE:
MAIN ARTICLE: Seven Habits for Calmness (with former Google
executive, Jade Bonacolta)
SHOP NEWS
ABOUT US

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MAIN ARTICLE:  Seven Habits for Calmness (with former Google
executive, Jade Bonacolta)

With the awareness that the “livin’” of summertime sometimes does not feel
“easy” for my readers and me, I initially felt skeptical when first laying eyes
on a recent blog posting from former Google marketing executive, Jade Bonacolta.

The blog title, “The Quiet Rich,” (I thought) would pertain more to financial
drive for “riches” than to entrepreneurs “quiet” or calm. I suspected she’d
argue ways to (unconsciously) contort our minds into a proverbial pretzel to
squeeze from it every ounce of earning capital.

But I persisted in reading . . . . and was pleasantly surprised. Bonacolta writes
about entrepreneurial wellness but with insight that reflects her own life
experience. She and B2B Influencer, Canadian-born Colby Kultgen, are like-
minded correspondents who don’t simply download their content from AI!

Here are some highlights from Bonacolta’s recent posting on “seven habits to
bring more calmness in your life,” but with further (and complementary)
insights from me. (Please know that I never use AI to write, but instead to
revise and edit my own copy):

1. Arrive everywhere 10 minutes early
By setting your clock ahead by 10 minutes (metaphorically speaking), we
avoid running late. Why does this matter? Lateness forces our nervous system
into “fight-or-flight mode.” That means we’re stressed before we even get to
the appointment or meeting. (Consider also–contract or job interviews, where
timeliness is crucial!)

Bonacolta recommends building in a “10-minute cushion,” so you’ll be
prepared, present, more relaxed (and, I add, professional)! Also, to any
caffeine junkies among my readership, remember that it’s never good to
arrive late to meetings, but also with fresh coffee in hand (i.e. your peers may
wonder why you have time to line up at Starbucks, when you’re late to meet
them).

2. Use a shutdown ritual
Bonacolta says to end every workday the same way: “clear your desk, close
your tabs, and write down tomorrow’s top three tasks.”

She argues that it’s healthy to keep a mental boundary between your work
and your personal time: “Your brain knows when work is truly done, which
means you can actually relax in the evening instead of carrying mental
residue home.”

This is a great idea, but one not many entrepreneurs implement. Remember
that Parkinson’s law says “work expands to fill available time.”

So couldn’t enforcing a “shutdown ritual” around 5:00 pm make us more
effective earlier the next day?

Evenings spent reading for leisure and relaxing with yoga and/or music, etc.,
can boost our productivity for the next workday.

3. Learn to say “no” to overwork

When your work-plate is full, Bonacolta says to refuse further projects,
regardless of how attractive they sound. A correlative of this is that (unless
we’re newbies) we should hold out for better quality projects, instead of
giving in to lesser ones, simply to pay our bills.

If we prospect actively, larger projects will ensue—they may just take a bit
more time to arrive.

But if we say “yes” to projects that don’t fulfill our goals, we clog our
schedules with work we don’t like, and end up overworking.

So learning to say “no” to overwork (which includes the wrong work) frees
us to say “yes” to the niche projects we actually want and deserve.

Bonacolta writes: “Calm people protect their bandwidth fiercely. They
understand that every ‘yes’ is a ‘no’ to something else. Master this, and you’ll
never feel overwhelmed by commitments again.”

4. Remember the 40%/60% rule

When it comes to working with others, she writes to “listen more than
you talk. In every conversation, ask interesting questions that let the other
person speak 60% of the time.”

Speaking purposefully for your 40% of the time, “removes the pressure to
always have something clever to say. Plus, people walk away thinking you’re
brilliant—not because you talked, but because you made them feel heard.”

5. Make optimal use of your morning start
Bonacolta recommends blocking the first “90 minutes” of your morning, for
your most important task—and before answering emails and texts!

She writes: “Your brain is sharpest in the first few hours after waking. Calm
people use this prime time for meaningful work, not reactive email ping
pong. They get their biggest win done before most people have had their first
cup of coffee.”

I’d recommend that those first 90 minutes include 15 for “morning pages,” as
pioneered by professional writer, Julia Cameron, in The Artist’s Way (1992).
When we lay bare our unconscious thoughts onto paper (i.e. remnants of
dreams, groggy thoughts and ideas), we free our minds to function more
alertly for the time (and day) that follow.

6. Take a “Non-Sleep Deep Rest” (NSDR) pause, every day
Listen to a “non-sleep deep rest” meditation for 10 minutes every day to
boost your energy. Bonacolta likes this 10-min YouTube video from Andrew
Huberman.

She likens this rest to “a power nap for your nervous system. It’s more
restorative than scrolling social media and more energizing than caffeine.
Even 10 minutes can reset your entire day.”

7. Set healthy boundaries
Take one vacation every quarter (even if it’s just a long weekend away). Put
your “out-of-office” email responder on “and don’t check email until you’re
back” Bonacolta writes.

She continues: “Calm people understand that rest isn’t earned—it’s required.
They schedule recovery like they schedule important meetings. Because they
know burnout is just deferred stress coming due with interest.”

Given the pace of tech companies like Google, Bonacolta knows whereof
she speaks. Her seven tips are predicated on the insight that “the most
stressed people I know are constantly reacting to life. The calmest people . . .
are prepared for it” (my emphasis).

Calmness isn’t a personality trait you’re born with. It’s a skill you can
develop by practicing good habits.

She concludes that these seven habits “might seem small, but
they compound. Each one removes a little friction from your day, a little
clutter from your mind. Stack them together, and you’ll be amazed how much
more peaceful your life becomes.”

Bonacolta recommends starting with just one of the above seven habits at the
start of a new week. Why not start first by arriving by “10 minutes early” to
your office or meeting? She says it’s the one tip out of the seven above that’s
“easiest to apply and which will have the biggest immediate impact.”

And now it’s your turn: Have you applied the “10 minutes early” tip to
increase the calm in your day?

What about the others? Please share your experience; I’d be delighted to
hear from you.

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SHOP NEWS:

 

My renewed gratitude goes out this month to the two women entrepreneurs who co-founded (with me) our writers’ group–Saskatoon Freelancers’ Roundtable–more than 10 years ago last spring!

Thanks to Julie Barnes of Julie Barnes Creative Services who writes insightful and evocative articles for “Saskatoon Home Magazine” and for the CBC, is an agent for professional musicians, and (amongst many other things) finds time for philanthropy in our community.

Julie’s friendship and generous spirit are fortifying; it is a joy to be in her presence.

She has recently begun a Bachelor’s Degree in Interior Design from Yorkville University (online, from Toronto), which local writers in our group know will only deepen her insights in the field.

Best of luck, Julie, and we hope still to see you occasionally at the Saskatoon Freelancers’ Roundtable that you helped us to co-found!

My other co-founder of this writers’ group is, Ashleigh Mattern of Vireo Creative (a website design company). Vireo designs those websites while also providing online marketing content for thriving business owners.

Ashleigh creates that content, while also finding time to read voraciously, write and publish fiction, lead literary workshops and promote writers’ retreats in our community (and that’s not an exhaustive list!).

Ashleigh has pressed “pause” on a few of those activities during the past year, while undergoing surgery and treatment for cancer.

But she remains the positive and enthusiastic friend and colleague that we all know and care for.

The “Roundtable” is rooting for you, Ashleigh, and we hope to see more of you after treatment ends, this fall.

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Thank you this month also goes to my colleague and friend, Sharon Wiseman, who has shared her advice on teaching literacy skills to youth who occasionally enter my ESL practice.

Sharon’s knowledge of pedagogical methods and experience teaching youth have enhanced my teaching strategies, for which I’m very grateful.

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It was amazing recently to see my long-time friend, Tracey Mitchell, peer support worker for Mental Health and Addictions Services in Saskatoon and community leader, par excellence. 

Tracey works tirelessly to improve the quality of life of many in Saskatoon, including through youth leadership training, efforts to preserve the environment,  commitments to feminism, human rights, food security and sustainability and more.

It’s inspiring to be in Tracey’s presence and I’m grateful to her for sharing ice cream on a Saturday afternoon in high summer! (And btw, “Giggles” ice cream stand at 8th St. and Broadway Ave has delicious pistachio–and other–ice cream. Give them a try this summer, if you’re an ice cream lover or foodie! And no, I’m not a paid affiliate of “Giggles,” but happen to think that ice cream should have its own category on Canada’s Food Guide!)

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As a part of outreach at my church, St. Andrew’s Presbyterian (YXE), Reverend Roberto DeSandoli and members are striving to create a community hub with other groups that will offer local assistance to the unemployed, homeless and marginalized, often in Saskatoon’s downtown core.

Critics who scoff at the irrelevance of churches/faith groups in our community should take a further look, here! But like all volunteer organizations, the challenge remains to engage new and diverse contributors, so that long-time supporters do not burn out.

While my schedule is often fully booked, I plan to contribute when I can to ESL/literacy readiness services.

Please reach out to me if you would like to get involved or learn more (shih.ea@gmail.com)

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Teaching ESL to economic immigrants can only occur when one has a quiet and calm meeting space.

For that, I’m especially grateful to the staff of the Saskatoon Public Library, who actively support newcomers by sharing meeting space and digital resources (free Wi-Fi!).

Library staff have helped some of my students to download apps that improve their English skills (e.g. “Hoopla,” “Libby” and “Mango Languages”) and audio books, as well.

While the atmosphere at some branches is sometimes contentious (as sites for some of the city’s marginalized people seeking relief), staff strive to keep meeting spaces quiet and conflict-free, so patrons are free to learn.

Thank you, to the staff of the vibrant public library branches of Saskatoon!

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There are always new  entrepreneurial and related success stories to celebrate.

Please send me yours to share in future issues!

But for now, this is a wrap for mid-July!

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 ABOUT US:

Between 2011 and 2019, Elizabeth Shih Communications chronicled the stories of B2B marketing and communications on the Prairies and across the country.

Effective January 1, 2019, I rebranded as “Storytelling Communications.” I have since helped economic immigrants to secure better jobs or gain larger contracts by improving their language skills; and I help major companies write their legacy stories.

Interested in learning more? Please contact me through my website

(www.storytellingcommunciations.ca).

After I receive your message, I’ll be pleased to discuss projects with you!

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Published by www.storytellingcommunications.ca – Storytelling Communications – Fifth Ave. North. Saskatoon, SK, Canada. S7K 5Z9

Copyright © 2025.

Where can I find high quality ESL/TEFL teaching resources? Here’s one great recommendation . . . .

Newbie English-as-a-Second Language instructors (ESL) often ask me where they can find high-quality and current teaching resources.

With more than 700K users in more than 100 countries worldwide, “One Stop English” checks those boxes (and more). Addressing topics as diverse as sustainable development and citizenship, resource management, cybersecurity, meditation and mindfulness, and a wide array of business topics, “One Stop English” (OSE) is a terrific, go-to resource.

New teachers and students alike can try out some of its modules (drawn from sources as reputable as “The Guardian” and The British Council) for free.  (While I’m not a paid affiliate, I subscribe, read and adapt many of OSE’s resources for my teaching.)

Thanks to veteran teacher and teacher-trainer,  Carl Cameron-Day, of TEFL.org for recommending OSE years ago!

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On the value of diversity from Paul Avellino and Arlene Dickinson in this month’s issue of “Tell Your Story Newsletter”

June 2025 Vol 7 Issue 6

Tell Your Story Newsletter (TYSN):

Teaching English-as-a-Second Language to Economic Immigrants

Let us help you tell your story!

 Welcome Mid-June, 2025!

As I prepare this issue of “Tell Your Story” Newsletter, my readers will know that Northern Saskatchewan has already endured a terrible forest fire season. Twenty-three active wildfires were counted last week and 258 over the season so far, well ahead of the average of 147 fires over the past five years.

The Canadian Red Cross has registered evacuees from more than 3,700 homes and from more than 10,500 acres of at-risk land in our beleaguered province.

More urban-based Saskatchewanians have watched with worry, noting the frequent air quality advisories and warnings and knowing how much worse conditions both evacuees and firefighters have faced (some of the latter coming from Europe and Australia to help us). Thank you to them!

Last Saturday, after many parched weeks, we received the grace of some steady rain: what firefighters, farmers and river-boat captains (on our beloved South Saskatchewan River) wouldn’t do, for some more of the same!

Yet, not disregarding these challenges, the month of June (with the official start of summer) marks what we often call the “good weather” in our province! Glorious flowering trees  have flourished.  Busy gardeners are overseeing seedlings, bedding plants and perennials, longing for more heat and rain.

I keenly anticipate generous gifts of plums, berries, zucchini, cucumber, tomatoes and potatoes from the gardens of friends this summer, some of whom read this newsletter!

Yesterday was Father’s Day and I hope each you you found time to spend with your (or someone else’s–lol) father, grandfather or other family members on that gorgeous, sunny day.

Recently, I opted to shorten “Tell Your Story Newsletter” to focus on one article (instead of two), to reduce reading time for you (and to free myself to engage in memoir writing, on-the-side.) But please know that occasional snippets of word stories and jokes may still sometimes return, under the moniker of “Storytellers’ Corner!”

This month, I visit two high-achieving entrepreneurs’ reflections on diversity, a concept democratic countries like Canada must daily fight for, given the state of world politics:

American tradesman-turned-professional gardener, Paul Avellino, and beloved Canadian celebrity investor, Arlene Dickinson, have weighed in on Facebook and Linkedin, respectively. I share their gripping commentary in full-length, because it reminds us of why we must make a stand to preserve democracy, in a world beset by violence and chaos.

Although spring this year began as a season of loss for me (with my elderly mother passing one month ago), I am equally grieved by the nightly news. And yet, I find through the multi-layered nature of grief that slowly, light, love and laughter do seep in.

May the summer that is unfurling around us bring you JOY, good reader. While losses must be faced, I also wish you prosperity in your relationships, in time spent in nature’s diversity, and among the diversity of family, friends, colleagues and newcomers–now and always.

Sincerely,

Elizabeth

Principal

Storytelling Communications

www.elizabethshih.com

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IN THIS ISSUE:

 MAIN ARTICLE: On the value of diversity from Paul Avellino and Arlene Dickinson

SHOP NEWS

ABOUT US

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Main Article: On the value of diversity, from Paul Avellino and Arlene Dickinson

On Facebook recently, my former entrepreneurial coach and valued friend, Deanna Litz (of Powerful Nature Coaching and Consulting, Inc.), shared some philosophy from American farmer, Paul Avellino, aka “The Garden Guinea.” Avellino is a self-described “gardener, writer, chef [and] father.”

Avellino is a former tradesman who took up domestic farming (he prefers the understated term “gardening”) during early Pandemic times. He’s an advocate for growing one’s own food and for living with kindness toward the earth and each other.

Avellino recommends what others call “forest bathing” or time spent in nature, where humans­­–especially in these deeply troubled times–can quickly appreciate the health that comes from ecological diversity. He writes:

“Take a walk through any thriving forest, and you won’t find uniformity­—you’ll find balance through variety. Trees of every kind, fungi laced through the soil, insects, birds, predators, pollinators, and plants that bloom at different times, all playing their part. That’s not an accident. It’s a blueprint.

 

Diversity isn’t something nature tolerates. It’s something it requires to survive.

So when people talk about human diversity like it’s a threat to stability, or when systems are designed to flatten, exclude, and erase—remind them that ecosystems collapse without diversity.

That monocultures breed disease, and closed loops break.

We don’t thrive despite our differences—we thrive because of them. Just like the forest, just like the coral reef, just like the world we’re all lucky [or blessed] enough to be part of.

Diversity isn’t a threat. It has always been the plan.

Avellino shares wonderful memes, pairing his philosophy and work on Instagram, which I encourage you to visit! . . . . .

AND, also this week, in a more urban register, immigrant investor, entrepreneur, author and pioneering “dragon” on CBC’s “Dragon’s Den,” Arlene Dickinson, shared her insights on our communities’ diversity on Linkedin.

Dickinson wrote about the need we as Canadians have for diversity as part of our cherished sovereignty, and when false but alarming fear and anxiety are stoked by autocratic politicians who fill the media newsfeed (notably in the US and beyond):

“Do we need to feel fear as much as we do, watching the TV news, these days? Dickinson asks.

She continues: In the USA, fear is now the central tool of politics. Immigrants and migrants are being blamed for economic hardship and crime. DEI [Diversity, Equity and Inclusion] programs are painted as dangerous and divisive. Judges, educators and journalists are all being framed as threats and people we should distrust.

In Canada, over 33% of biz owners are immigrants. In the USA, it’s a fact that immigrants commit fewer crimes than citizens born there. Undocumented workers pay more than $20 billion in taxes yearly, including into Social Security (which they don’t even receive). And, by the way, being undocumented isn’t a criminal offense; it’s a civil violation.

These people are contributing to society, not taking from it. They are building America, not destroying it.

But fear is way louder than facts, because we don’t feel facts.

We feel fear. So immigrants become political pawns not because the facts support it, but because fear gives [greedy] people power.

The same fear is being used against DEI. The fact is that diverse teams make better decisions, build more trust, and outperform homogeneous ones.

Transgender athletes are another manufactured threat. Fewer than 10 transgender athletes are competing across [more than] 500,000 college student-athletes in the USA, but somehow, they’ve become a national crisis. It’s absurd. And it’s cruel.

Democracies weaken with fear. Fear of each other, of our differences, and of imagined threats.

What frightens me isn’t immigration or diversity. It’s how fast suspicion about each other spreads. How easily neighbours become enemies. How many people fall for the lie that inclusion is dangerous?

I’m so proud to be Canadian. Proud that we’re a mosaic, not a melting pot. Proud that we value difference, not sameness. But that only matters if we’re willing to protect it.

Immigrants aren’t the problem.

Black people aren’t the problem.

Women aren’t the problem.

Gay people aren’t the problem.

Trans people aren’t the problem.

The problem is the super elite in power [i.e. autocrats and oligarchs] who believe they’re entitled to control the rest of us. Who weaponize fear to hold on to power and money.

I’m tired of it. I’m tired of fear. I’m tired of seeing each other as enemies instead of as decent humans trying to survive and live with dignity.

There’s real evil in the world for us to fear and focus on. Hezbollah, Hamas, The IRGC-Quds Force, Al-Qaeda, ISIS. The Wagner Group. And I could go on.

We should fear and fight factions like these, not the people who are escaping from horrors in order to save their lives and live in peace.

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These fighting words from Avellino and Dickinson rewarded me for visiting Facebook and Linkedin last week, when so often social media elicits only doomscrolling, undue anxiety and despair from consumer-readers.

In my work teaching ESL to economic immigrants and newcomers, who Dickinson rightly says make more than one-third of the business owners in Canada–including in Saskatchewan­–I regularly meet diversity and the strength it brings. When I speak to newcomers about values of mutual respect, understanding of each others’ cultures, values like hard work and responsibility,

 And now it’s your turn: What is happening in your family or circle of friends to help to cultivate and recognize diversity–and to oppose the homogenizing forces of the world? 

What tangible things can we do to overpower the injustice of manufactured fear and despair, in our times?

 

Please write in; I’d be delighted to hear from you. 

 

SHOP NEWS:

I ended this month’s “main article” by asking how each of us can outdo the injustice of manufactured fear and despair, in these times.

Some of my colleagues and friends have been answering that, notably through our most recent Federal election in Canada. Falsehoods and fake news of many kinds were  ably exposed and subverted by entrepreneur Silvia Martini and writer Michael Robin, to name but two. Thank you to them.

Thank you also to my long-term friend, writer and former fellow U of English student,  Paula Jane Remlinger, for penning cogent analyses over Facebook on the hateful machinations of Trump and allies who threaten our weary world.

Other “thank yous” go out this month to friends Beth Brimner and Lenore Swystun for reminding me that even–or especially--in such times, we find (and need) JOY.

Joy can exist, even as we oppose the violence of Russia in Ukraine; Israel against Palestine in Gaza; North versus South Korea; China versus Taiwan; Afghanistan (the Taliban versus ISIS and insurgents [NRF]); and Sudan (the Sudanese military versus the paramilitary), to name only a few of our global “hot spots.”

Thank you and congratulations to my South African friend, Christel Jordaan Schlebusch, for pursuing Canadian midwifery certification, when her significant skills and experience are greatly needed in Saskatchewan.

The popular English TV program “Call the Midwife” (viewed here on PBS) depicts some of the extraordinary work of midwives in saving infants, mothers and their families from medical and other risks.

Thank you to two remarkable correspondents whose messages are always heartening, even in trying times and as we all age–English Professor (Emeritus) Bob Calder; and former Managing Editor of the Saskatoon StarPhoenix, Wilf Popoff.

And thank you, good readers, for continuing to read, share and respond to this monthly newsletter, some 14+ years after I started it as a copywriter and editor, and now as I teach English-as-a-Second Language (ESL).

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ABOUT US:

Between 2011 and December 2018, Elizabeth Shih Communications chronicled the stories of B2B marketing and communications on the Prairies and across the country.

Effective January 1, 2019, I rebranded as “Storytelling Communications.” I now help economic immigrants to get better jobs or secure larger contracts by improving their  English language skills (by my ESL classes). And, when time allows, I also edit memoirs and legacy stories of individuals and major companies.

Interested in learning more? Please contact me through my website (www.storytellingcommunications.ca).

After I receive your message, I’ll be pleased to discuss projects with you!

Meantime, please tune in next month for another issue of “Tell Your Story Newsletter!”

 

Are you an economic immigrant who needs to improve your English language skills? Read on . . .

To our immigrants to Canada: You know that strong English skills are essential, as you study or work toward gaining permanent residency or citizenship.

But recent cutbacks to both Federal and Provincial government funding for immigration mean there are more bodies than seats available in English language classes.

Our settlement agencies do great work, helping you to gain competency in English (e.g. Open Door Society, International Women of Saskatoon, Saskatchewan Intercultural Association, etc.)

But what do you do if their classes get cut and their waitlists grow long?

And what do you do if you’re an economic immigrant, who is . . .

·        💲💲 seeking a promotion
·       👯 wanting to fit in better with co-workers
·       💡 wanting to start a business
·       👨‍👦 interested in making deeper connections
·       👩‍🏫 able to learn better with individualized training and coaching
·       ⏰ needing flexible learning time
·       📊 wanting someone to keep you accountable

These are where I can help!

My name’s Elizabeth Shih and I’m a certified teacher of English-as-a-Second Language (ESL) through Tefl.org. I am experienced in teaching the finer points of listening, speaking, reading and writing, through grammar, vocabulary, pronunciation and business communications.

I can help to prepare you for the occupation you want, or to excel in your business through thoughtful and accurate communication.

My background as an academic English writer and teacher (BA, MA, ABD), a business-to-business copywriter, and a facilitator of business communications for the Praxis School of Entrepreneurship (https://praxisschools.ca), allows me to teach you these higher-level skills.

Interested in learning more? You can read about my classes on my website: (https://lnkd.in/gaFZHnhh).

And contact me at shih.ea@gmail.com to book a free, 15-minute meeting to discuss your language needs. This term is nearly over, but a new one will shortly start!

What others say . . .
👍 “I rate Elizabeth’s [ESL] teaching services as outstanding. Her dedication, expertise and personalized approach truly set her apart.”
–William Wang (Director of China Offices, Government of Alberta, Edmonton, AB; CEO of Indigenous International Trading Group of Canada Ltd.)

👍 “Elizabeth is a great teacher. She was always prepared and chose materials carefully [and] always provided resources . . . [She] was always on time, reliable, empathetic and attentive to details . . . I highly recommend Elizabeth!”
–Maryna Kostiuk (Data Analyst, Toronto, ON)

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From loss to laughter, with Susie Dent; In memoriam: Bernice Shih

May 2025 Vol 7 Issue 5

Tell Your Story Newsletter (TYSN)

Teaching English-as-a-Second Language to Economic Immigrants

Let Us Help You Tell Your Story

Welcome Mid-May, 2025!

In the 2020 film, “Wild Mountain Thyme,” based on John Patrick Shanley’s play, Outside Mullingar, the male protagonist, Anthony Reilly, recalls the death of his mother as a time “when all the colour went out of the world.”

I can relate to that observation these days, as I grieve the recent passing of my mother, Bernice Shih, a long-time supporter of my work as a writer, editor and teacher.

I dedicate this simple issue of “Tell Your Story Newsletter” to the memory of Bernice, who died peacefully in her sleep earlier this month — and to all of the amazing women including mothers who read this newsletter, many of whom have known such loss.

Although Bernice and I did not agree on everything in life (who does?), she was a devoted mother.

I will always remember her gentle, kind nature and her deep commitment to her Christian faith.

“Death is not the extinguishing of light;  it is only putting out the lamp because the dawn has come”–Rabindranath Tagore

Rest in Peace, dear Mum.

Elizabeth

www.elizabethshih.com

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In This Issue

Article One: From loss to laughter, with Susie Dent–In memoriam: Bernice Shih

Shop News 

About Us

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Article One: From loss to laughter with Susie Dent

Laughter can provide tremendous medicine when one has been grieving a loss for a while, or a loss that has been expected. Laughter can bring life to a survivor’s weary mind and spirit.

I don’t mean that we should force or rush our ways through times of grief to laugh, but only that tears and heartbreak can gradually give way to humour and hope.

My sense of humour has been influenced by years of reading, writing and teaching English literature and language. Some of that humour I shared with my mother.

So this month, with a nod to my ESL students past and present, I will share ten humourous–or ironic–“curious words” or phrases, their histories and meanings. Each is vivid and often light-hearted. They can inspire us to apply them lightheartedly in daily life.

These words (and many more) have been collected by celebrated British lexicographer, Susie Dent, in her 2023 book, Interesting Stories about Curious WordsFrom Stealing Thunder to Red Herrings. (John Murray Press).

(1)   “Right foot foremost”: Historically, in the West, it has been considered unlucky to enter a house, or even a room, on one’s left foot. In ancient Rome, a boy would be stationed at the door of a wealthy homeowner, to caution visitors not to cross the threshold with the left foot!

(2)   “Pecksniff”: This irony-laden term refers to a “hypocrite, who speaks pompously about morality” while doing “heartless things ‘as a duty to society,’ and forgives wrong-doing in nobody but himself. “Pecksniff” is the name given to the arch-hypocrite in Dicken’s novel, Martin Chuzzlewit (1843-44).

What I find humourous with this word is the very sound of the term and the absurd clash between the appearance and reality of such characters’ personalities.

(3)    “Shaggy dog story”: This phrase refers to a “supposedly funny story, told laboriously and at great length with an unexpected twist at the end. It is usually more amusing to the teller than the hearer and is so-called from the ‘shaggy dog’ that was featured in many stories of this genre in the 1940s.

Etymologist Eric Partridge shares a classic “shaggy dog story” here:

“ ‘Travelling by train to London from one of its outer dormitories, a businessman got into a compartment and was amazed to see a middle-aged passenger playing chess with a handsome Newfoundland [dog]. The players moved the pieces swiftly and surely. Just before the train pulled in at the London terminus, the game ended, with the dog victorious.”

The businessman commented: “‘That’s an extraordinary dog, beating you like that—and obviously you‘re pretty good yourself.’ –‘Oh, I don’t think he’s so hot; I beat him in the two games before that!’”

(4)   “Yahoo”: This is the name given by Jonathan Swift, in Gulliver Travels (1726), for people with human forms and vicious propensities. Swift may have based the word on a blend of the two exclamations of disgust, ‘yah!’ and ‘ugh!’”

But in common speech today, “yahoo” conveys humour, arguably due to its unpolished sound.

(5)   “Salad days”:  With this phrase, Shakespeare refers to “days of youthful inexperience, when people are very green or naïve”: “My salad days,/When I was green in judgement, cold in/blood, /To say as I said then!” (Antony and Cleopatra, I.v. (1606).

This phrase could also work on a seasonal restaurant menu . . .

(6)   “Mrs. Malaprop”: This name comes from the female character in Richard Brinsley Sheridan’s play, The Rivals (1775), who frequently misuses words. “Malapropisms frequently flourish,” Dent writes, where naïve or ill-read people “try to use technical or professional language.”

Dent continues: “In The Times newspaper (4 May 1985), writer Philip Norman “reported a miners’ leader who denounced his bosses as ‘totally incontinent,’ and a parishioner who complained to her vicar about the church’s poor ‘agnostics.’”

Dent writes that “medical terms” are often “prone to malapropism [with] examples including ‘teutonic’ ulcers, ‘malingering’ tumours, ‘hysterical’ rectums and ‘Cistercian’ deliveries.”

The phrase comes from the French, “mal a propos,” (“not to the purpose”).

(7)   “In the groove”: This phrase refers to being “in the right mood; doing something successfully, fashionable.” From this comes the “dated slang word ‘groovy’ for something fashionable or exciting.” The term alludes “to the accurate reproduction of music by a needle in the groove of a gramophone record.”

Resurrect this expression and you’ll earn the scorn of everyone who hears you (lol)!

(8)   “When the fat lady sings”: This term refers to a time when “everything is finally over. The full expression runs: ‘The opera is never over till the fat lady sings.’”

This refers to “the final act of the opera, in which the heroine often re-appears. Opera singers are stereotypically endowed with figures as full as their voices,”  Dent adds. Politically correct it is not!

(9)   “Pope”: This word is more evocative than funny. It “derives from Old English ‘papa,’ from ecclesiastical Latin, and Greek ‘pappas,’ a child’s word for father” (just to add to the mix of this issue on women and mothers)!

“Pope” may not be a humourous word, but it is very evocative and timely, as Dent writes that “the smoke that emerges from the chimney of the Sistine Chapel during a papal election is known as the fumata.”

She adds: “Black smoke indicates there is no clear majority; white smoke is issued when a final choice has been made.”

This resonates for us, given the recent election of Pope Leo XIV; and with Canadian Prime Minister Mark Carney’s recent comment that “no white smoke” rose from the White House chimney during his recent meeting with US President Donald Trump!

(10)  “To visit the Spice Islands”: This phrase is one of many euphemisms for using the toilet, and, Dent says, was “favoured by the Victorians” (who else?!).

She further writes that “In the 1800s, those caught short would ‘play arse music,’ ‘use the thunder jug,’ or even ‘starch the potatoes.’”

Contemporary Western culture discourages “bathroom humour,” sometimes referred to as “little boys’ humour,” among adults. And yet, the influence of such idioms, often from Victorian culture, persist.

Dent adds that “in the last hundred years we have turned to” expressions like “‘emptying the anaconda’” for such bodily functions (!)

Many of the words in Dent’s book (including most above) are onomatopoeic, meaning that they phonetically imitate, resemble or suggest the sound associated with it. This may be the main basis of their humourous effect.

Each of the words in Dent’s book carries at least one–or several– stories, as she illustrates in her collection. Words remain the building blocks of all stories and therefore of all of our communication.

Very often, sharing certain words and stories (from an early age) provides the building blocks of our relationships with beloved adults, especially our mothers.

And now it’s your turn: What curious or “gem” words do you use in common speech? Do any of them come from talking with your mother or another family member? 

Please write in; I’d be delighted to hear from you. 

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SHOP NEWS:

In light of family bereavement and related matters, I have temporarily slowed my ESL teaching for a few weeks. But I look forward to welcoming new students in upcoming weeks.

Regarding my mother’s late life care, I want to thank St. Andrew’s Presbyterian Church’s parish nurse, Laura Van Loon, for her extraordinary and very compassionate service to Bernice and to my whole family.

Laura helped to intervene when Bernice endured falls, hospitalizations, assessments and moves between care facilities, as most failing seniors do.

While I’m sorry that my mother didn’t live long enough to attend the Mother’s Day lunch I had organized for her, I’m grateful to the staff at Saskatoon Convalescent Home for all of their diligent care for her and so many other seniors.

If you are seeking a long-term care bed for an elderly relative in the city, I encourage you to consider the Convalescent Home, where kindness is evident each day.

The home’s building may be older (some renovations have occurred, with more forthcoming).  But the staff have been remarkable.

There are daily activities, usually six days per week (unlike other long-term care or private care homes), and a beautiful, garden/courtyard in the spring and summer, where residents can appreciate the good weather.

I believe deeply in such an approach to elder care.

My family and I also thank Rev. Roberto De Sandoli and members of St. Andrew’s Presbyterian Church, the late Ted and Mrs. Audrey Gilroy and especially Greg Gilroy; Dani VanDriel; Lesley Bens and other close friends who have supported me through these past years of caregiving.

Thanks, too, to the care staff of Sunnyside Adventist Care Home, Luther Heights Intermediate Care Home, The Franklin Retirement Home, City Hospital (Geriatric Care Unit) and Saskatoon Community Clinic, for their service.

I’m deeply grateful to Ben Nussbaum (of Nussbaum and Associates) and Lance Bergen (of the Saskatoon Funeral Home) for their help when dealing with estate or memorial matters.

Thank you to the members of Saskatoon Freelancers’ Roundtable (my writers’ group) for the messages of condolences they have sent me, and for their compassion during times when we as creatives face adversity.

Finally, I thank all of our extended family and friends who wrote, called or visited my mother during the past few years, especially folks affiliated with the Presbyterian Church in Canada (and St. Andrew’s, Saskatoon) or with the Saskatchewan Teachers’ Federation, where my mother volunteered or worked for most of her adult life.

Mother’s Day has passed. But during the month of May, or whenever you can arrange to share physical space with family and friends, I urge you to pause whatever you’re doing to  hug those you love.

We never know how much time any of us has left.

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ABOUT US: 

Between 2011 and December 2018, Elizabeth Shih Communications chronicled the stories of B2B marketing and communications on the Prairies and across the country.

Effective January 1, 2019, I rebranded as “Storytelling Communications.” I  now help newcomers to Canada land better jobs and economic immigrants to secure greater contracts by improving their English skills.

Interested in learning more? Please contact me through my website (www.elizabethshih.com).

After I receive your message, I’ll be pleased to discuss English classes with you!

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