Cultivate self-compassion this summer, with help from Calm.com

Although the months of July and August in various industries and vocations often bring us much-needed holiday time, summer can also bring its share of stress, anxiety and emotional pain.

As I’ve discussed in my blog and enewsletter in recent years, the American psychologist Kristin Neff has been a pioneer of self-compassion–the belief that we should extend the same compassion and care we’d show to a good friend towards ourselves, especially when we fail at work, look and feel inadequate, and are dogged by emotional pain. When we recognize (and do not resist) our suffering, we can begin to treat ourselves with warmth and compassion, rather than harsh judgment.

The American platform “Calm” shared recently that “self-acceptance is a  mental health superpower.”

If you’re finding that the supposedly halcyon days of summer bring you emotional pain, consider reading (and applying) Neff’s insights in her foundational books,  Self-Compassion, and Fierce Self-Compassion.  And if reading isn’t accessible or possible where you are, please consider visiting the blog postings and newsletter resources  on calm.com, which include exercises and strategies influenced by psychologists, meditation experts and healers of many kinds. (Full disclosure: I am not an affiliate of calm.com and receive no fees for recommending their resources.)

These are genuine alternatives to the “doomscrolling” we so often lapse into, torturing our broken minds for hours, trying to wrest health out of our unhealthy phones and portable devices.

Happy summer, good readers. May you accept and be kind to yourselves  this season and after, especially when life feels harsh.

 

On “Old Soul” Living with Jade Bonacolta in the mid-June Issue of TYSN

June 2026 Vol 8 Issue 6

Tell Your Story Newsletter (TYSN):

Teaching English as a Second Language to Economic Immigrants

Let us help you tell your story!

Welcome Mid-June 2026!

After many days of grey, rainy (and windy) weather, Saskatonians have been craving sunshine and warmth to accompany the city’s many upcoming summer festlivities:

The Children’s Festival recently passed and the city excitedly prepares for another season of Shakespeare on the Saskatchewan; the Saskatoon Jazz Festival and the Saskatoon Fringe Festival, among many events that will bring welcome foot traffic to downtown Saskatoon and to Broadway Avenue.

Sum Theatre has staged multiple plays in parks around the city and continues until month’s end. Ground Yoga will hold classes in Rotary Park for both new and expert participants. Open-air salsa dancing continues at River Landing, along with a spray park, outdoor basketball, elliptical machines, and a nearby ice cream stand!

The higher water levels of the South Saskatchewan River, after a snowy winter and with water descending from the Rockies, will allow the Prairie Lily river cruise to enjoy a busy season.

And not far from town are free trails to hike (and naturalists to present local flora and fauna) at Beaver Creek.

If a more cultivated garden appeals, our Berry Barn on Valley Road is happy to oblige, along with a restaurant that serves locally grown Saskatoon berries and Ukrainian perogies.

Thursday “Happy Hour” will return to the roof-top patio of the Remai Modern Museum this summer. The museum also offers free art activities for youth on Thursday afternoons.

Canada Day will feature vibrant fireworks, food trucks, face-painting and other activities at River Landing for city dwellers and visitors.

The Saskatoon Public Library now offers free family passes to our archaeological wonder,  Wanuskewin Heritage Park (which awaits the results of its application for  UNESCO World Heritage status). Seven-day passes are also available to camp for free in our regional parks (now until September 8th). Call the Frances Morrison Library for more information.

As the above (incomplete) list shows, there’s much fun to be had this summer in Saskatoon and area. This topic will be the mainstay of an ESL presentation I’ll deliver to two of my clients’ large classes next month.

The above kind of real-time, low cost activities will take many of us (I hope) out-of-doors this summer. Unplugging from tech  and connecting with the outdoors is the advice of American marketing guru, Jade Bonacolta. What she calls “old soul” activities, were once the mainstay of our grandparents–reading books, getting exercise in the outdoors, taking in cultural events, and more.

These activities can restore some of the joy and energy that digital life (including AI) often takes from us, most of the year.

With the above lengthy introduction to “fun in the city,” good reader, I wish you two or three months ahead filled with adventure and pleasure, when you can enjoy the exhilaration of Saskatoon’s fun-filled summer.

And whether mid-calendar or in August, please share your tales of adventures with me for a future issue of “Tell Your Story Newsletter.”

Sincerely,

Elizabeth Shih

Principal

Storytelling Communications

www.elizabethshih.com

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IN THIS ISSUE:

ARTICLE ONE: On “Old Soul” Living with Jade Bonacolta

SHOP NEWS

ABOUT US

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Main Article: “Old Soul” living with Jade Bonacolta

In many ways, marketing guru, Jade Bonacolta, seems to be an exponent of late digital times, leading an ambitious online marketing program, “Archimedes” (with fellow marketers Ben Meer and Colby Kultgen) that boasts a high-level of international subscribers. She worked as a turbo-charged Google executive and has thrived in these challenging, high-tech times.

Yet Bonacolta reflects on the need to slow down and go off-line– advice I find especially relevant when the fleeting season of summer arrives (in Saskatchewan). I shared some of her insights last summer in TYSN. But they seem even more relevant today, while professionals debate the millions spent on cooling and cultivating AI developing technology, while children and underearning members of our local communities struggle to secure food and shelter.

She writes:  “What if our grandparents had it right all along? They started their mornings with the newspaper and coffee—not scrolling through social media. They cooked Sunday dinners from scratch. They walked to the store and actually talked to their neighbors along the way.”

By contrast to them, we have more conveniences and technology but “we’re more anxious, distracted and lonely than ever. Why?  Because our nervous systems were never designed for this. Constant notifications. Breaking news alerts. Dating app swipes. The happiest people I know have figured out what our grandparents knew instinctively: offline is the new luxury.”

She advocates that we all find more “freedom” offline this summer, and suggest cultivating six consciously “old-soul habits” to slow down our minds and bodies.

Here they are:

(1) Instead of asking ChatGPT for a simple recipe, ask your mom, your sibling, or your friends who love to cook.

(2) Instead of Ubering for baking ingredients at the last minute, knock on your neighbor’s door. They’re often happy to help, and it can be delightful to build a small community with the people who live close to you. (Offering your neighbour a few dollars, or later giving them a small coffee gift card will help to cultivate kindness between you.)

(3) Instead of texting or posting online to a friend, “Happy Birthday,” call them and talk for a while. You’ll be so glad to hear their voice. And they’ll remember your call long after they’ve forgotten the 17 emoji-filled texts they got that day,” Bonacolta says.

(4) Instead of doom-scrolling in bed at night, read a few chapters of a really good book. It does wonders for your mind (and your quality of sleep). (On my bedside table are Anne Lamott and Seth Godin. . . .)

(5) Instead of listening to a podcast or ebook when you walk, she writes, “give your mind some whitespace.” You’ll get the best ideas, in the course of walking (as writers including Virginia Woolf, James Joyce and, much more recently, editor Daphne Gray-Grant have all argued).

(6) Instead of checking emails in line for coffee, smile and say hi to the person next to you: “You never know what it could lead to. A new friend. A business opportunity. A moment that makes someone’s day. Or maybe just a small reminder that the world is still full of good people.”

These six “old-soul” habits require “more effort upfront, but they pay enormous dividends in the long run,” Bonacolta concludes.

Calling your mom or a friend for their chicken recipe will take more time than using AI. But they’ll feel far closer to you and you’ll remember that feeling for days, she adds.

Similarly, “knocking on your neighbor’s door could feel slightly awkward at first. But that small moment of courage could turn into years of friendship.”

Reading a book demands more focus and effort than “doom-scrolling.” But that novel, poetry or essay “will nourish your mind in a way that no algorithm ever could.”

When our world “pull[s] us further apart from each other,” Bonacolta writes, “it promises you convenience, but it doesn’t mention the cost hidden in fine print at the bottom. Connection.” Emotional connection.

The advent of lighter weather this summer (especially on the Prairies) and the reality that many of us take a short “pause” in the year for holidays, make this the ideal time to seek connection over convenience; collaboration over competition; in sum, “old soul” activities.

The bonds that we forge and memories we make can serve us for years (not just days or moments) ahead.

It’s up to us to cultivate these “old soul” activities. High-octane, former Google executives like Jade Bonacolta see the need for them. We smaller fry should, too.

I wish you, good reader, a summer blessed with “old soul” activities and the emotional revitalization it can bring you.

And now it’s your turn: How often do you set technology aside to live in an old-fashioned, connected way? What difference does it bring to your soul?

Please write in; I’d be delighted to hear back from you. 

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SHOP NEWS:

I’m glad to share this month that I have been working with newcomers on idiomatic pronunciation and accent modification. They are employed at a manufacturing company in Saskatoon’s industrial region.

While the work can be challenging, I’m glad to work with adult learners from across Europe and Asia. As they strive to integrate into our community and economy, I encourage them to listen and speak more precisely, in a context of encouragement and support.

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Thanks are due to my ESL mentor and friend, Steve Cavan, for sharing resources in recent months. While diving deeply into numerous books, I’ve planned better classes, thanks in part to his insights. (He has logged in thousands of hours and multiple languages, over italki.com).

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I greatly appreciate the nearly weekly webinars on professional issues for ESL teachers, offered by my former training institute, TEFL.org, by host Carl Cameron Day and tech strategist, Alan Moir.

These two gifted and experienced teachers share useful knowledge and hands-on, marketing strategies in their presentations and on-demand Q&A periods.

I have no doubt that TEFL.org has earned its B-Corps certification status for responsible company culture, and fair treatment of both learners and teachers.

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Thank you very much to a new and valued contact, Tahirih, in leadership, who  shared conversation with me last month about building English fluency among some non-native speakers in Saskatoon and area.

It was a delight to meet Tahirih (and to learn the correct pronunciation of her beautiful Persian first name). I greatly appreciated her time, insights and sharing, which I have worked with, since.

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More in the direction of “old soul” time, I send  a warm nod to the owners of Fable Ice Cream on Avenue H (in Holiday Park, across from Riversdale Park) that offers the city’s best and freshest artisan ice cream, made with local ingredients, served in delicious sugar-cones (or cups) by neighbourhood youth.

I especially enjoyed a scoop of “Key Lime Pie” flavoured ice cream with one of several friends whom I visit there. But in fact, I’ve enjoyed all of the confections Fable has served,  over the past two summers!

It’s a treat well worth a little added cost and I remember the advice (from both a nutritionist and a friend) that eating such a treat, away from home, is less likely to derail one’s eating habits than buying a carton of (the inferior) Haagen Dazs every week from the grocery store.

And how great to support a local business, too!

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And thank you, good readers, for continuing to read and reflect on this mid-month newsletter, now 15 years in production!

As always, I’m grateful to receive your comments and suggestions for future issues!

There are always new people to thank and new  entrepreneurs to promote.

But for now, this is a wrap for mid-June!

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What is a “Friday Gratitude Journal” in the mid-May issue of TYSN

May 2026 Vol 8 Issue 5

Tell Your Story Newsletter (TYSN):

Teaching English to economic immigrants

and to internationally educated, second-language academics

Let us Help You Tell Your Story!

Welcome Mid-May 2026!

Spring is finally here, Good Readers! In Saskatchewan, we’re learning that spring may no longer be the coherent season that many of us remember from our childhoods. Instead, it’s become more of a too-long battle between winter’s snowy cold and the warmth and sunshine of spring and summer.

Today is a case in point, as the weather forecast for Victoria Day weekend calls for more (albeit light) snow (and after two earlier snowfalls, earlier this month)! But to discuss further would only reinforce the truism that we Canadians love to complain about our weather! So, moving on . . . .

Since I’m adding to my work docket a significant contract teaching ESL to newcomers who work in an industrial manufacturing setting, I’m making an effort to shorten this year’s spring and summer issues of “Tell Your Story Newsletter.” (Remember the ol’ adage that it takes more effort to write less volume?)

However, I’ll be sure to continue to share insights on topics that are useful to you, as a wide variety of users of English–be you a newcomer striving for literacy, a native-speaking professional writer or editor, or a communications specialist of another kind. So please stay tuned!

Since many of us communicators keep journals or diaries of our work and creative lives, in the main article of this issue, I’ll share some insights from American copywriter and AI specialist, Ed Gandia. Ed’s blog and podcast are rich in resources and I draw this month on his insights on how to make journalling on Fridays even more useful.

I wish you for you, valued reader, a month of metaphoric sunshine (whatever the weather holds), so you feel an increase in creative energy! Whether it’s drafting a manuscript or returning to some purposeful recreation, we can tap into our universe’s creative potential (and at a time when the world groans in suffering and turmoil) . . . .

So, give some thought and effort to your Friday journalling practice!  And please update me on your reading and writing interests. With your permission, I’d be delighted to include them in a future issue of “Tell Your Story Newsletter.”

Sincerely,

Elizabeth Shih

Principal

Storytelling Communications

www.elizabethshih.com

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IN THIS ISSUE:

->ARTICLE 1:  What is a ‘Friday Gratitude Journal’ (with Ed Gandia)?

-> SHOP NEWS

->ABOUT US

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Article One: What is a ‘Friday Gratitude Journal,’ with Ed Gandia?

American copywriter and coach, Ed Gandia (“High-Income Business Writing Podcast”) regularly describes how we can make freelancing (and other kinds of self-employment) healthier. Healthier not just now but, even more so, several months from now.

Many freelance writers (including former academic writers and former B2B copywriters, like me) have long written in daily journals to clear mental clutter and to achieve emotional equilibrium in the midst of busy lives. In this activity, we’ve drawn on the pioneering example of Julia Margaret Cameron’s The Artist’s Way, and its adaptation by writers and writing coaches, including Daphne Gray-Grant, and Ed Gandia.

More than a year ago, Ed blogged on how to tweak the practice of daily journal writing, especially on Fridays (like today) to make the process more helpful in improving our moods and, as a result, our productivity.

Ed says that every Friday he asks himself three basic questions that he focuses on answering in his journal for that day:

(1) What went well this week?

(2) What didn’t go so well and what did I/ can I learn from those experiences?

(3) What am I most grateful for?

Now, these might seem like simply intuitive questions. But when freelance schedules heat up and journal writing may fall off one’s proverbial desk (including the handwriting part, which is essential to mental expression), these three questions can carry transformative power.

Instead of scrabbling to tap into a fatigued mind, we can use a Friday journal to develop a mindset, so that these three questions evoke more feelings and insights than we thought possible.

Ed comments that he “can’t believe” how many ideas bubble up, as he writes and that he quickly fills “at least one full page. And I often come back to it later and add more things I forgot about. I didn’t realize how many things went well until I forced myself to think and write.”

In this practice, we overcome the tendency all creatives face of a negative confirmation bias–whereby only unhappy or negative thoughts germinate from only one negative event or experience. Negativity can take over our minds. Discouragement and depression certainly follow–as death knells to creativity and optimism.

Ed adds that Friday journalling can include setbacks, because “framing setbacks as important lessons has been transformational. I know this intellectually. But forcing myself to identify the good in every ‘bad’ has been very powerful.”

Despite the messiness of our daily lives, creators (in fact, everyone) still need to find the good. Choosing to focus on positivity, especially with these three Friday questions, can help us to “identify all the little things [we] tend to overlook as [we] go through the day.”

Maybe it is a “thank you email” from a prospect who reads your work. Or a text from a colleague who shares a resource in return for one you gave them. Even finishing a government census that gave you the opportunity to discuss needed change in social policy to make freelance life better . . . . and on and on the insights can go.

Ed admits that he avoided writing what I call a “Friday Gratitude Journal” for ages, because he doubted its efficacy. But he writes: “I’ve been proven wrong. It’s amazing what happens when you spill these thoughts onto the page. . . . The physical feedback loop is powerful! Give it a try and see what comes from it!”

I would add: “Happy people focus on what all we have and what we have accomplished. Unhappy people focus only on what’s missing.”

And now it’s your turn. Do you keep a daily (or regular) journal? Will you refine it to include a “Friday Gratitude Journal? ” Why not start today?

Please share your feedback; I’d be delighted to hear from you.

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SHOP NEWS:

Saskatoon’s “Small Business Group” (formerly Saskatoon’s Freelance Roundtable group) continues to meet, under the undaunted leadership of freelance writer and content creator, Ashleigh Mattern.

Ashleigh, Julie Barnes and I started the group in the spring of 2015 (earlier, in a fledgling form) to channel creative writers’ need for discussion, advocacy and co-referrals.

We planned our group over drinks (and a notepad) 12+ years ago, in a bar in downtown Saskatoon that long ago closed!

While we outlived that venue, we’ve since met in cafes and coffee shops across the city, including the Broadway Roastery on 8th, City Perks, Sparrow, and lately, Grace Whittington’s wonderful cafe, HomeQuarter.

A shout-out and thanks to  Ashleigh Mattern this month, as she continues to take the reins of the group in the face of my scheduling challenges, as an ESL teacher.

Ashleigh is the “chief storyteller” (writer, marketer and social media expert) behind Vireo Creative, a web design and content team.

She’s also a long-time creative, writing freelance journalism, producing content for the CBC, marketing copy for local businesses and exploring multiple literary genres and influences, including in her novel, Magicked Born (2021).

Currently, Ashleigh’s also the Communications Director for a one-year term at St. Paul’s Hospital Foundation. Could anyone be busier?

I hope to return to assisting with group leadership, as we figure out how to make complex schedules/transportation comply!

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With our diverse interests as co-founders and members, Saskatoon’s “Small Business Group” has much potential to grow into the future.

“If the shoe fits,” we’d be happy to include you in our next meeting. Please reach out.

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Another grateful thanks this month to Northern Ireland-based, ESL teacher, Carl Cameron-Day, and (Glasgow-based) ESL administrator, Alan Moir, both of TEFL.Org.

Carl is an experienced ESL teacher, tutor, teacher-trainer and exam administrator who has worked all over the globe. I know him as a sage advisor who energetically hosts webinars for junior and mid-career English language teachers.

When part of a work week takes me off the trail of language training, I’m always the better for tuning in to a TEFL.Org webinar, hosted by Carl, and deftly facilitated by Alan Moir (himself an ESL/EFL teacher by training).

Their wry sense of humour adds to their charm. (Alan once adopted the name of a “Cupboard of Cheese” for a webinar’s Q&A).

ESL/EFL teachers can watch recordings of these webinars (some going back years) on YouTube and on Facebook, filled with helpful tips and best practices.

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Finally, this month, my sympathies go to the family and friends of the late Brian Paranica, who recently passed away,  after a many-year battle with Multiple Sclerosis.

Brian was a former civil servant in Ottawa, but hailed from North Battleford and lived his last years in Saskatoon/Warman, without losing his passion for sports and friendly conversation.

Many thanks go to parish nurse, Laura Van Loon, for regularly visiting and updating us on Brian’s welfare.

Brian was also a significant contributor to St. Andrew’s Presbyterian Church’s pastoral care committee, where he advocated for the inclusion of those with physical and mental health conditions.

At St. Andrew’s we miss you already, Brian, and may you Rest in Peace.

My condolences to Brian’s family and closest friends.

A memorial service will be held on Saturday May 23rd at 1:00 pm at St. Andrew’s Presbyterian Church,  Saskatoon.

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Since rebranding in 2021 as the principal of “Storytelling Communications,” I have pivoted to teach the intricacies of English-as-a-Second Language (ESL/EAL/EFL) to adults and young adults.

There are always new stories and new people to promote in “Shop News.” But this is a wrap for mid-May. 

ABOUT US:

Between 2011 and December 2018, Elizabeth Shih Communications chronicled the stories of B2B marketing and communications on the Prairies and across the country.

Effective January 1, 2019, I rebranded as “Storytelling Communications.” I  teach economic immigrants to secure better jobs or larger contracts by improving their English language skills.

I also help internationally educated, second-language academics to progress through the tenure (or related) promotion process by improving their English language skills.

I help both sets of clients to become integrated into our community and economy more easily than they would working (in isolation), alone.

Interested in learning more? Please contact me through my (still CASL-compliant) website (www.elizabethshih.com)

After I receive your message, I’ll be pleased to discuss projects with you!

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Seth Godin reminds us about empathy

When disastrous (mind-shattering ) news daily fills our screens and overpowers our senses, I’m not sorry to repeat (frequently here) the message that our world needs more empathy.

Last weekend, marketing luminary, Seth Godin, agreed.

Asserting that we need to focus on “what it’s like to be you,” his words encourage solidarity:  “simply announcing how hard [empathy] is, is a fine place to begin.”

But let’s not stop there. Our humanity’s at stake (in more sense than one).

Empathy is difficult